Thursday, December 29, 2011

The one person in your life

Are you confused about someone in your life?

I'm sure you have heard the term "toxic people", these are people you should try and eliminate from your life.  These people tend to poison your mind with negativity, rumors and are always letting you down.  If you have someone in your life that fits this description, limit your time with them as much as you can.

There is another type of person in your life whom you may be mistaking as a toxic person, be careful you do not need to eliminate this person. Do you have someone in your life that bounces around from relationship to relationship?  How about someone you find simply has a family life you cannot agree with?  And lastly, that one person who has a hobby that you find to be simply a waste of time.
Every time you are around this person you tell them what they are doing is wrong, you are always trying to change their ways. Even with the hate and anger you hold for this person you consider them as your best friend.  You both get along so well, you can confide in each other, share life experiences and you even look forward to time spent with this person.

If you have someone in your life you can't understand and criticize them for there actions you are a toxic person to them, and slowly them may leave you. Scary, isn't it.......

We must stop trying to figure these people out and learn to respect their life choices, as hard as it may seem. If you truly care about someone, just be there for them in hard times and good times.  Nobody wants to hear they are making the wrong life choices, especially from a friend.  How do you like it when someone points out your flaws? (don't lie)  Life is tuff enough to try and figure out on our own and we do not need to start and try to figure out why people do what they do, it's exhausting.

People do not change, yet you can make all the changes in the world.  It's up to you to make changes not for people in your life to make changes so you can be happy!  Next time your friend makes a silly choice and you don't agree with it, learn not to criticize.  You can go home write it down on paper and destroy it, a friendship is difficult to understand yet to precious to throw away.  Learn to respect bad choices because you make bad choices yourself on a daily basis.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The hardest thing you will ever do

How do you know when it's time to let go of something that hurts you?

In your life right now there a some things you can let go of, yet you probably can't figure out what those things are.  The reason is because you cannot distinguish what to keep in your life and what you should let go of.  You haven't been taught this skill yet.
The majority of people always want to get rid of stuff that is detrimental to happiness in their lives and wanting to keep what hurts them the most.  You cannot let go of family, good health, well being and everything else you take for granted but these are the exact things we try and push away on a daily basis.
You can let go of bad habits, bad influences, toxic people and anything that serves you no purpose in growth in life.  I'm here to let you know how to tell the difference.
Eliminate what causes you the most burden in your life.

It's not going to be an easy task to get rid of these things you feel you need.  Human nature hates change, we don't deal with it well.  You can observe this behavior in a baby's eating habits.
When a baby is breast fed it loves the comfort and bond it develops from being fed by it's mother, there is nothing that can break that bond until the bottle is introduced.  The baby fights the bottle with all it's might because it really hates the feeling of this change.  An infant fights it, always wanting to go back to his mother's breast. Mother knows breast feeding no longer serves a purpose for the babies growth and development.  Then the day food is introduced and just like the bottle the food is not welcomed by the baby, it now fights for the exact thing thing it rejected in the first place, the bottle.  As you can see, even from childhood we always fight change, because change is a difficult aspect in life to deal with.

We often fight to keep the things that do not serve us because we feel we could not live without them.  They give us a sense of well being and comfort until the moment they hurt us.  Seek growth in what you have in life, if something prevent you from growing, eliminate it so you can get more focused on the elements in your life that provide you growth.

One way to tellThe things you often think you can live without, (grass is greener on the other side) you actually need in your life. 
The things you fight to do and keep in your life, can probably be eliminated, they live in your comfort zone.

Look at your friends
Who do tell everyone your never going to talk to again?  Yet once you see them you have a close bond that leaves you filled with negative energy when you leave.  This close friend, can be picked out as the one whom when associate with the important people in your life let you know they are hurting your well being. (Listen to loved ones)
I have several of these friends and I know for growth I must stay away from them as much as possible.  We have a great time together,  but I know to never allow our friendship to become a habit.

Begin to analyse your life, ask yourself what or who no longer serves you purpose for growth and begin to really figure out how you can distance yourself from these elements.  If it's a person, ask yourself do they help me growth spiritually, mentally and emotionally?

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Monday, December 19, 2011

Start trying

There's one thing I've noticed, whenever a sales contest in my company comes up and great prizes can be won people give up before they even start.  As my excitement rises and I talk to other salespeople, it seems the enthusiasm they show is next to nothing.  They've already given up saying stuff like:

"Why try I don't work enough hours?"
"The other person always wins"

Many people sabotaged their chances at opportunity and give up feeling they haven't got a chance. People tell themselves everything is stacked against them so why even try.  I'll tell you why you should try, because you could end up being the best and you could succeed and become the biggest sensation this world has ever seen but you must try.
When I first started working for the company I'm presently with, a sales contest came up for a trip.  There was one problem, the previous winner was working at a very successful location in Canada, many customers were already spending large amounts of cash with this salesperson everyday, it simply looked impossible to win.  One more thing that was stacked up against me, I had to sell a product at the time I didn't know anything about and I really didn't believe in.  To make a long story short I ended up in Jamaica and selling double what was sold in the previous contest.  I don't tell this story to show off, I tell it because everything was built up against me when I began, and I made a very important decision, that was to TRY!

The second you decide to try something that's out of your comfort zone, you start to become a different person.  You start thinking differently, acting differently and turn into an automatic winner, I say winner because your at least TRYING.  So what if you don't achieve what your trying the first time, it could take you 25 tries to get what you want,  it's possible that it takes you 100 times to get what you want.  If you keep at it, the rest will get tired of trying and eventually you will get it.

Next time an opportunity comes your way, decide to try.  Tell yourself you will win, everybody wants fame and glory.  If you have no idea how you could compete against other people for a major opportunity, realize this one great thing: 

ALL MASTERS WERE ONCE DISASTERS.

Become great!

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Get over your bullies

Are you living someone else's opinion?

Do you remember being in school and having people bully you about something?  If you were ever bullied, your self confidence becomes affected so negatively that eventually you start to believe it.

In school I had terrible acne, it was on my face, back and shoulders and people bothered me about it a lot.  They bothered me so much that I hated going swimming because I had to take my shirt off. My self esteem was so low I couldn't talk to anyone without thinking all they would only judge me only by how my skin looked.  I started bodybuilding when I was 17 years old and could not even show anyone my results due to the fear I had.  Do you want to know why this fear was so ridiculous?  My skin cleared up when I was 20.  I continued living with a shame and fear for about 11 years that was totally imaginary, and all because I started to believe what people told me many years ago.  I'm 33 now and have built up great confidence that I rarely think about those days anymore.

All the results up to this point in your life are an accumulation of your beliefs and actions.  Many of us are living a total lie because someone affected us many years ago with what THEY thought of us.  We heard lies about us so many times we got brainwashed into believing in. This is all because we allowed our emotions to take over.  The second you allow emotions to control your actions and thinking your in BIG trouble.

You can change.

If you start thinking back, to your childhood and teenage years you will find out what you were bullied into believing.  Once you've figured it out, start to examine why you still believe it to this day.
All beliefs can be changed, this is a fact!  It takes some positive self talk and a bit of vision but it's fairly easy to do and there are many books on it. (email me for some names of books)

When you finish reading this in a few seconds,  start to realize you are not:
-Ugly
-Stupid
-Worthless
-Undeserving
-Smelly
-Crazy
-Slutty
-Jerk

Your not any of those you simply started to believe it many years ago and envisioned yourself into becoming that.  All you must do is create the vision of the perfect you, hold it firmly in your mind and you will start to believe the positive version of yourself.  The real version of yourself is so amazing, you have no idea yet!  Once you give yourself a chance to shine you become an instant success :-)

Stay motivated
Shane C

Sunday, December 11, 2011

The question to ask yourself

We all like to play with bad things that hurt us over and over again.  People, crazy lifestyles, poor health and risky behavior are really, really fun things to do!  Although, the second were done having fun we always live to regret it.

-Someone keeps hurting you and you swear that you'll never go near this person again.
-You party to much one night and you swear your never going to have another drink again.
-You get an unhealthy report from your doctor and you swear you will change your unhealthy ways to a life of health.
-Or you simply do some dumb move, that you knew wasn't a good idea and you swear your never going to make a dumb move again.

We all know what happens though, we always go back and hurt ourselves again with the same people, situations and risky behavior.  I understand why we do this but I'm not sure if you are aware.  As dumb humans we are always searching for a "higher state".  This is why we always do things that help us achieve a feeling we are not presently feeling in that moment, we're just never satisfied.  And this is fine, I'll be the first to admit I'm this way, I seek out things that hurt me all the time and I do this because they feel so good knowing I shouldn't be doing them, and I know you do it to.  I'm here to say it's fine to get a little crazy, but sometimes we need to know how to draw the line, notice I didn't say when to draw the line (that's to serious). 

When I'm getting a little out of control, I always ask myself this question:

"What I'm I trying to get out of this?"

And at the point I ask myself that simple question, it stops me dead in my tracks and I usually end up stopping the behavior I'm doing right in that moment.

Instead of living with days of regret ask yourself that simple question when things are getting a little to crazy, and I almost guarantee you will stop and think before you make things worse for yourself.  It's a magic question that has gotten me out of many sticky situations which I have found myself in more that I'd like to admit

Stay motivated
Shane C

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Undiscovered

In life there are people we often look up to, wishing and hoping we had things a little more like them. Their job seems better, the person they are with always seems better and their homes are always better.  Everything always looks better looking inside someone else's life.  There is a false belief that if we only had things as they did we would have more happiness and better chances at success.

Did you know the people whom you look up to are human just like you?  It's true, we all have flaws and weakness', even the most successful people in this world don't have everything in order the way you think they do.  From the outside, it only appears this way because you are choosing to see only what you want to see.
I have great news, you have everything you need right now to get you where you need to be. You do not require extra things in your life or any other special skills right at this moment to start to get more successful or reach a higher level happiness, all you require is your motivation, your positive thoughts and the self confidence you have been given to reach whatever you are trying to attain.

You may think you know yourself to well, but there is someone deep down inside of you wanting to get out and show the world who you really are.  You have these talents you haven't discovered laying dormant inside, even skills you've never explored and it's only a boring daily routine and negative self talk that keeps you from achievement.  I know you are better than negative self talk and a boring daily routine and you know it too.  Start shaking things up and trying new areas of your life.

The point I'm getting at is this, your are an amazing person who can do anything as of right now.  The only thing getting in the way is the person you think you are.  Begin to discover the person hidden deep down inside of you and one day you will become someone people wished they were like.

Stay motivated
Shane C

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Comfort kills your dreams

When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?

When children are growing up they never say:
"When I grow up. I want to become an average paid worker nobody notices".
They want to become doctors, lawyers and astronauts, kids know how to dream big!
I know your also a dreamer, yet somewhere along the way you got to comfortable to keep forging ahead. 
Fear, security and comfort just got in the way of you reaching the top.

Myself, I'm doing pretty well career wise but I want more (I always do), I want more out of myself and I want to forge ahead in different areas in my industry and I know the ideal position I'm thriving towards.  With all that there is something I want even more, and that is to become a professional public speaker, that gets my blood pumping.  On top of that, I want to be so good I become a trainer to other professional public speakers, and that scares me.  So the first thing I do when the fear strikes me is tell myself to GO FOR IT!

To many of you have an automatic shut off switch once fear hits.  You feel fear, and you go right into your regular frame of mind of "I have a regular life, and it must remain exactly the same".
Your life does not need to remain the same, many years ago you started on a journey towards success and some how you shut down your motivation and  it happens to the best of us, but now it's time for you to keep moving ahead because the world is passing you by.

I'm not saying quit your job, let's take security out of this equation.  I'm talking about getting better so you can reach the top.  Learn to face comfort and fear head on, the second you face those two factors your whole life will begin to change.

If your a wash dishes in a bar and you can't see yourself owning the place one day, move on to something you want to do.  You may need to start at the absolute bottom position and work your way up but you got to start somewhere.  Get into a career that you see yourself at the top on day, if you don't start now you may feel to old to do anything else later down the road of life.

Use this checklist to get ahead

-How many years have you been doing the same thing? (depressing feeling isn't it)
-Determine exactly what you want to do
-Observe how the top people behave
-Start doing what you do, the best you know how
-Study books, audio and video on how to get better
-Accept any opportunities
-Don't over analyze, the world has no time
-Stay away from the conversations that make you question your ideal life

Now think back to your childhood, did you think you would be where you are today?  If you said no, then start back on that road to success and simply realize you settled into life because it got comfortable.

Stay motivated
Shane C

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

What to do when your mad

Do you actually prove a point when you hate someone?

If your like me, you often run into people you simply don't mix with.  You have no connection with certain people you come in contact with.  I often get this feeling along with thousands of other people, it's normal were human.
The feeling of hatred affect us physically and mentally, you often look like a maniac to others when you show hate.

When you really hate someone, you hurt yourself more than the other person.

How you come off to someone

When you're around someone you can't stand, craziness and anger run through your head, words of hate and frustration fill your mind. 
The person your upset with really has no clue that they have done anything wrong.  You seem a little cold towards them but that's all, if anything you will simply confuse them. (Men, it's the feeling you get when the women in your life are giving you the silent treatment).

What hate does to you

When you are truly angry with someone, your mind races and you can't focus on anything.  If you're a truly goal oriented person like myself, this can kill your focus. 
Your blood pressure goes sky high, your digestion shuts down and your get subject to pre-mature aging from the unnecessary stress you give yourself.

What to do about it

I could talk about forgiveness but that's losing battle most people can't truly understand.

Try this instead:
-Step number one is to shut your mind off, get control of your thinking and I'll let you know the simplest way to do this.
When something is bothers you, write it down with a pen and write exactly why you are mad.  Put everything down on paper as quickly as you can write it down.  Once your done, put the paper away and read it the next day. 
Funny thing is we can't think straight when were upset and everything you have written down will make absolutely no sense, especially if you read it out loud to yourself.  You will realize by reading your problems aloud that they really won't seem as bad as you once thought. Once you've read it, burn it or destroy it and learn to get over it. 

This is not an anger management exercise from a course I was forced to take....lol
It is simply an effective thing to do when your really mad, being mad is not a great way to feel.  You have so many great goals to achieve that you don't always have time for hate and madness. 

Do this exercise and you will feel great.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Friday, December 2, 2011

Healing after failure

Have you ever been down in the dumps with no signs of success or happiness?

The feeling of being a total failure and being unable to do anything about a situation can lead you to a pretty dark place in your life.  I'm here to tell you that you will make it through, and it doesn't take as much effort as you think.

Last year I was faced with my wife wanting to leave me, and this was devastating me.  I can remember the night it happened.  I was awake all night thinking about the rest of my life, and it didn't look very appealing.  I couldn't figure out how I would ever continue thriving for success and happiness.  My whole life's priorities took a shift in an instant and I was terrified. I was in a very "dark place" and it lasted for months.
I tell you this not to bring you down or feel sorry for me, I'm passed that now.  The point I want to make is this, I didn't think I could ever find the success I was looking for anymore and I found my way back to working my way towards the top.

I slowly learned that the faster I wanted to move on with my life and forge ahead, the faster I would need to take my focus off the situation that was driving me down.  It doesn't matter what you are suffering from, heart ache, failure at work or loss of something meaningful, you will only heal by "shifting your focus" to what makes you heal.  It's difficult at first, maybe you can only start to focus for 30 seconds a day but eventually your focus is so intense on what makes you happy again you will not have realized that days or even months of sadness have simply melted away.

All failures big or small are simply guides to help you learn.  Learn from them and move on to the next issue in life.  You grow the more you go through but always put into action the things you learn.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Free up some time

Some days do you wake and you feel that you've got so much to do that you may not have anytime for yourself?  Your days are filled with work, running around, cooking, cleaning and endless tasks that keep you exhausted and complaining.
 
I'd like you to think of your 24 hours everyday like your bedroom closet.  If you walk up to your closet and open the door you will probably find boxes, old clothes you think are still useful to you and clothing you presently wear.  You will also find junk that you threw in there expecting one day that it will become useful again.  It's an overfilled mess that could be re-organized.

Like the overfilled closet, your day can also be re-organized.  If I look at your day you may notice it's filled with activities that no longer serve you any purpose.  You may feel the your activities are important but ask yourself:

"I'm I totally satisfied with my life?"

Are you beginning to understand?  Learn to fill your day with activities that are useful, start looking at everything you do as opportunities to become more effective. Work, family time, school and anything else that are "musts" in your life need to be more interesting.  Going through the motions are not getting you anywhere.  It's time to make work, school and family time more interesting, come up with goals you want to achieve with each aspect of your life.

Like re-organizing your closet, get rid of what no longer serves you.  It will be very difficult to make adjustments, that is why you must start off slowly and build up.
Learn to prioritize your activities, define your tasks as:

a. Important
b. Not as important to achievement
c. It won't be the end of the world if I don't do
d. Total waste of time

By putting labels on your activities it will help you reach achievement much quicker and also help you understand the importance of what you are doing.
Start ditching the stuff that is boring and mundane and replace it with better activities that make you feel more like your accomplishing something.

Letting go of old habits and routines can be a very difficult thing.  The more you complain about things in your life, the more a change is needed and shaking up your routine is key.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Hangovers can motivate

How many times have you woken up and it's been a "Morning after"?

"Morning after" usually happens on Saturday or Sunday morning after a fun time out. Checking your phone you see texts and calls you should have never made.  You find things in your pocket that make you shake your head and you feel the need to come up with a million alibis for what you did the night before.

I'm here to tell you it's ok, what your picturing in your mind probably isn't nearly as bad as you think it is.  Don't regret having great times in life, what should be done instead is learn from what you did.  Everything you do in life is an experience and all you must do is learn from experiences, this helps you grow.

Life is a learning experience, you learn as you go.  Every day when you wake up you get a chance at a fresh start, and that my friends is an amazing feeling.  Learn to not label yourself as your mistakes. Everyday you choose if you want to improve, stay the same or worse dig yourself deeper into a hole.

So because this blog is written on a Sunday you may have a hangover, don't allow it to hold you back, simply learn from the mistakes you made last night.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Fun stuff

In the world of personal development and success, there is fantastic exercise you must do to help you excel in life, here it is:

Write out your ideal life, as if you had 10 million dollars in the bank and knew you could not fail.

This is such a fun activity to do in your journal or simply on a piece of paper.  I encourage you to do this after reading the blog.  The down side, if you don't have the right training in personal development or proper mindset there can be one issue that continuously pops up, you may feel you don't deserve the things you write.  Don't believe the limitations your mind is telling you as you write.  Let your imagination run and let your hand write the best story of how you see your life unfolding!

Alternative

There is an alternative to this exercise. That is to picture the person you have become when you reach  extreme success.  Write out how you will look, dress and what you will do in a day in the life. 
I personally enjoy this exercise much more, you write out your superstar day.  It is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.

Why do we do this?

The reason you want to do this particular writing exercise is because you generally put less limitations, while describing your ideal successful self and day.
The other reason why, is you must become the person you see to achieve such greatness in this world.  Have you ever noticed you say to yourself:
"When this happens then I will........"

It's time to write out your ideal self, no excuses nothing as allowed to hold you back other than your pen running out of ink, and if it does you simply get another allow nothing to hold you back!

Stay motivated
Shane C

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Become more outgoing!

Are you waiting for something great to happen in your life, maybe win the lottery, get a promotion or even expecting someone to change.
This could be the problem, your waiting.  Waiting gets you nothing, have you ever noticed when you go out to a party or out to a bar people talk to you the more outgoing you are?  You introduce yourself, ask some questions and radiate a great personality.  When you act in this manner, people seem to be drawn towards you and you have a better time. 
Then there is the other end of the spectrum, maybe you're someone that goes somewhere stands in the corner and waits for people to come towards you?  If this is the case you often notice you have less of a good time and less people talk to you.
I can tell you I've tried both to see what would happen, I can handle myself pretty good in a room full of strangers :-) .  And when I stood there in the corner, people would approach me but more out of mystery:
"Who's this guy?".  That impression, may not be what you want to give off.

I give you the party/bar example because in life if you stand in the corner waiting, you could wait forever for opportunity to seek you.  Open up your mind, towards what you want and start to make actions towards what you want to achieve.  When you work towards what you want, people appear you never noticed before, places you drove by appear you've never seen before and you notice more things in life that get you closer towards what you want to achieve.

Work towards things that you want, the more you work the better it feels when you receive it.  When an opportunity opens up for you, it ALWAYS lead to other opportunity in life and it becomes and endless cycle of greatness.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Fitness leads to success

There may have been a time in your life when you were in terrific shape or you may be someone who still hasn't discovered the joys of physical fitness.  With the obvious benefit of health, there are even better reasons to making your body lean and muscular.  When I say muscular, I don't mean extreme bulk.  You must train quite hard with a diet that allows bulk to come onto your body.
Many women claim that once they workout they get too bulky, this is only a fear. When your body transforms it will look harder and leaner, this is what you started to train for it's time to learn to enjoy the lean muscle that comes with transformation.  As long as your diet is clean with a good amount of cardio minimum 4 days per week for 30 minutes per session you will not turn into Mrs Universe.

Here are my top 4 reasons why you should transform your body to reach success in life.

1. It makes your body look sexy, by adding sex appeal you develop a self confidence that is unshakable.
2. People start to admire you.  When people look at you differently you feel better about yourself.
3. You get to buy a new wardrobe. Any time you buy yourself new clothing you feel better about yourself.
4. It is often said that life is easier for beautiful people.  Why not see if this is true :-)

On a more serious note, if you trained very hard at one time in your life and you have suffered an injury that does not allow you to do the same training as you once did, you can still look amazing. I've seen people in wheelchairs and the disabled get one stage to compete in bodybuilding competitions, so you don't have an excuse.  You must tailor yourself a different and new training program than you once had, take it slow in the beginning.  You will get your body back, it takes work but it's so worth it.

Stay motivated
Shane C

Friday, November 11, 2011

Do it!

What do you regret not trying in your life?

Once you've answered, your ready to read the rest of this blog.  Regret is a horrible feeling, it's almost like a weakness.  You talk constantly talk about how things could be when you regret something.

Next time you are faced with a fear you should think about what you can gain by facing that fear.  Just look at what can be accomplished if only you did that one little thing that scares you.  We also have big fears, just think what you can accomplish if you face the bigger fears that lie in your head. 

Sometimes it's easy to look to the negatives that could happen by facing your fear, this is normal but is it real?  More that likely not, your head is simply filled with horrible stories that have happened in the past to a couple of people. You are not those couple of people though.  You are you, and you are amazing! 

Look to what you want so you don't live in regret.  Regret is a sad feeling, that gets you in a negative state of mind.  Winning is a much better feeling.  Keep asking yourself, do I want to feel good about accomplishing things in life or do I want to continually talk about what could have been.


Stay motivated
Shane C

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Love

Have you ever felt the need to withhold "LOVE" due to being hurt time and time again?

Let me begin by explaining that I'm not an expert in the topic of love or relationships, yet I am pretty well educated in the psychology of it.
To love someone is a verb, it's something you choose to do, and it gently blossoms to an attachment or affection towards people and even things or activities.  That's all it is, nothing more nothing less.  It's not Hollywood, Love is not a moment in time as many picture it in their minds.  It is something you choose to feel towards someone.  Everything else that comes with Love are positive actions.

Choosing to care, having deep desire and protecting the honor of the people you Love are the actions you do when you Love someone. Yet, that is only one version of what Love is.  Everyone has different versions that they have learned growing up.

The first step is understanding that not everyone has the same pictures of what Love is in their minds.  A man's mind and woman's mind are so different it's seems as though both minds could never function togther and for the most part they don't.  This is where communication comes in, we don't all communicate in the same manner it does not mean that people do not love each other it simply means that minds are different.

Most people look at another whom they have Love towards and wonder why the picture in their minds does not match up with their friend's or spouse's actions.  The internal dialogue often goes like this:

"Why don't they ever do ____ or_____ ?  They should know how much it means to me".

The real problem with that type of dialogue is the other people in your life cannot read what you are thinking.  A better approach is:

"How can I show them affection?"

I can tell you right now, what you will show them as affection or Love may not match up with what that person views as Love.  Simply put, you need to stop worrying about how people should Love you.  Show people Love often and do not give up because you envisioned a reaction they did not give you.  Love them always, and show them as many loving actions as you would want them to show you.  You may see that the effort you expected from them to be a little unrealistic.  You must change yourself so people around you start to change.

Love is complicated, and I'll say it again it's not Hollywood. 
-It's being there and encouraging someone when they are down without them asking you to. 
-It's standing beside them when they hurt. 
-It's the feeling you get when you hear terrible news about someone and you break down. 

You may not know you Love someone till it's to late, now start showing people around you what love is and stop being preoccupied with how they should Love you.

Just to finish off today's blog true love is in this video watch at 2:39.  Watch and learn...
Stay motivated
Shane C.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Who influences you?

Take out a sheet of paper and list the 3-6 people in your life whom you choose spend the most time with.  This will involve your work time and free time.  The one rule is, you are not allowed to use your immediate family (spouse and children) for today's blog.

In your life you choose to spend time with certain people for different reasons, I can't answer that for you, you will do that a little later. The people whom you associate with influence you in ways you can't even begin to understand. It goes as deep as body movement.
As for myself, their are two people who have had great impact on me, I watch what they do and I've started to mimic a common facial expression they do, and use 2 words they use quite a bit when speaking to others.  Did I do this on purpose, absolutely not I have simply picked up on it and overtime I adopted it.
The longer you spend time with people (ps- the actions I do, are only from spending minimal time) the more they influence your beliefs, choices and actions.  With that said, would you like to be influenced in a bad way?  Your answer is "no", yet most people allow this on a daily or a "weekend" basis.

Think of how you feel one hour after leaving people you spend time with, do they make you feel:

Angry, have a need to gossip, guilty, sad or even a need to say "I'm never doing that again".

or do you feel

Inspired, motivated, happy excited to go try what you've learned.

That question can be quite sobering, and you may not have ever thought of it before.

You may also be someone who claims you choose to spend time with a certain people because you are helping them through life.  Run quickly, those people only use you as a crutch and will very rarely use what you tell them to make there lives better.  It's great to be there for someone in a time of need, yet if there time of need is lasting several months or even years you may not be the right person that should be helping them.  Limit time with these people.  If you invest more than you receive from a relationship with a friend, limit time with them.

When you mature and need to grow you must start spending time with people who are influencing you in a positive way.  You start not being the most "popular" person in your new circle of friends, spend time with more successful people than you.  It's uncomfortable and scary but it's very worth it for what you get out of it.  These people give you ideas on positivity and success and at this point in your life you need it. 

Sometimes we worry that spending less time with someone hurts them, yet if it hurts you why suffer?  You must constantly be growing for if you choose not to get better, you are simply getting worse. 
Determine why you choose to spend time with the people you do, and ask yourself what are you getting out of it emotionally.  Are they draining you or helping you reach your potential?

At the begging I wrote family (spouse and children) do not count in this exercise.  The reason behind this is this blog was about people you CHOOSE to spend time with.  Your family life, is not the influence I was mentioning above.  And I'm not a family counsellor :-)

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

I have a test

Take a moment to look up from the screen and look around the room.  How many red things do you see?  Write it down, there is a test at the end.

Life gives you what you look for, you simply program your mind to find what it is you want to find and you will easily seek out those things.  This is what the "red things" test is for.
You may be about to email me saying that you tried this several times with no success.  You want to look for good things in life, opportunities and happiness yet it never works.  My answer to that is of course it doesn't work the first, second or third time, you must practice for days sometimes weeks.

If you want to find "good" in the world, you will.  You simply need a trusty old journal and a pen.  Carry it with you for a few days.  Write down at the top of the page what you are looking for, such as "people smiling".  As you walk around the first day you may only find one person smiling, but you must write it down.  The following day, when you get up you will be more pumped up to find these great people smiling, you may only find 3 people smiling.
After a week, you will be so excited to do this, you will start smiling at people just to get them to smile.  You will notice as time goes on you leave the journal at home and all you see around you is people happy because your smiling at them.

Everything takes a bit of time, but it's worth it when you put in work.  If you want your life to change for the better you must make life better.  It's easy right now to find only bad things in life when all your seeking is bad things, you pick up on them immediately.

Here is a task I gave someone who emailed me last week that I want you to do.  It's Sunday so it will be easy to do.  Go out and rent one of the following 3 movies:

-Happy Gilmore
-The 40 year old virgin
-White chicks

Take your journal and write down every time one of the actors sits down.  You will laugh through the whole movie, yet you will be programmed to only watch for people sitting.  It's a great exercise to do on a Sunday, why not try it.

So this week find out what you want to look for and go and find it, don't forget your journal.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Ok, so only look at the paper you wrote the red things on.  How many things in the room had rounded edges?  See, you didn't focus on rounded edges, so you don't know the answer!

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Priorities

There is a belief that some people have, that they must put everybody around them first.  Their priorities are to control the happiness and comfort of everyone around them at all times.  They lose sleep over satisfying others needs and run themselves ragged with a schedule filled with everyone else's chores, priorities and agendas.  Then they brag about how much they do in life.

But....

They often break down, and break down hard crying that nobody cares and that they never give themselves time to enjoy their own life.  Does this sound like you or someone you know?  If so keep reading.

Somewhere in life you got a pat on the back for doing a great job for helping someone, and this brought you a feeling of pride and enjoyment.  This is normal, we all have the need for acknowledgement, this how are mind works.  Then you slowly started to look for that more and more by helping others, you slowly developed this habit and thrived (like a high) every time someone gave you praise for helping them.  The problem is you never found out when to slowdown and help yourself out because your self esteem is often to low you are unable you congratulate yourself on the great work your doing with your own life.

Eventually life stops patting you on the back and saying "Good job!".  Life and people around you have to much to do to constantly tell you that you are doing a great job in life.  You are the solution to your own happiness, only you can give yourself the right "Way to go!" on a daily basis.  Work on your self esteem and not others to feel better about yourself, because unfortunately people don't have time to hear about how you help everyone around you. 

People have only one care in the the world and that is themselves.  They do care if you can help them out, yet only to satisfy there own needs.  You must do the same for yourself, make yourself happy by being good to yourself.  Put yourself before everyone else in your life, or you will continuously feel like you are never caught up.  You must sit down and rethink your priorities, with a pen and paper.  Mark down what and who is important in your life and put yourself at the top, start making changes in your life.  Change is inevitable and must happen for growth. People around you and you included will hate change in the begging, yet with time the right people will stick around.

Helping yourself is the only way you can build strong relationships in your life.  I belief it was Jim Rohn (my favorite man to learn from) who said:
"Let me help me first so I can help us"
This quote says it all, you must help yourself.  If you don't help yourself you may end up overweight, sick, depressed being a burdon on those people you tried to help your whole life.....Do you want that??

Stay motivated
Shane C

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Enjoy your enemies

Turning a negative into a positive can be life changing.

An enemy can be a crucial thing in your life.  To me a friend reassures us of where we are in life yet an enemy can help you achieve the meaning of the quote:

"The best revenge is success"

Many years ago I made a comment while watching a television show on "The fear of flying" about how much I enjoyed flying, I explained in detail what I loved about it.  I had maybe been on 2-3 planes at that time, and when I made my "expert" comments on flying, this person said to me:
"Ooohhh! You're such an expert on flying", implying I hadn't been on very many flights.  They were right I hadn't been in the sky that often.
Yet in that moment I made a decision out of anger, I was going to prove them wrong and I was going to get my revenge.
Since then, I have been on many flights and even given this same person advice on what to do in the face of anxiety when it comes to flying.  In the future as part of my goal list I have put down lots of travel all because of their comment that night.

When an enemy angers you, copy down their words on paper, and use what they said every time you feel down and out and want to stop trying. Get your revenge in non malicious ways and use "eye rolls" and their laughter at you to become better.

I have so many little quotes that people have told me in an attempt to embarrass me, and they didn't even realizee it at the time that they are only giving me fuel to climb the ladder of success.  I want you to listen to what an enemy tells you, write down the words and present it to them when you reach the top.

Stay motivated
Shane C

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Gifts

Today, tomorrow and the next day you have a choice to make. Will you be a victim or someone who enjoys what life has to offer?
Life is filled with millions of tiny gifts, yet those tiny gifts are often hidden behind your thinking that life is horrible.  It all comes down to focus, would you rather gifts (lots of them that you deserve) or hide behind sadness and a victim mentality?  Make that choice starting right now.

Action steps:
Practice gratitude
Start by writing out 10 things in your life your grateful for.  It can even be the air you breath or your teeth that help you eat food.  There are literally a million things, you just need to start thinking and using your brain.

Do something for someone
When I say something for someone I mean, someone you don't do something on a daily basis. I'm talking about helping an elderly person with a door or carrying their groceries.

Smile at someone
Simply smile!

Sometimes the biggest gift is simply knowing you can change someones day.

Stay motivated
Shane C

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

What I decided

What you fear most in this world can keep you from fame and fortune. When you face your fear you overcome it very quickly.

I recently attended Toastmasters (a public speakers group) for the first time and I felt a little intimidated.  Fear wasn't the factor but more how I would be judged on my mistakes from people who had more experience than I did.  The more I sat in on the class and participated, the more I heard from people who had a paralysing fear of speaking yet they were doing it anyway.  Toastmasters is a very positive group of people who support each other in speaking, so it's a great organization to join.
As I left that night I made a decision, and that was to do what others did but much faster and better by using more focus.  Instead of taking 2 years to do my required "speeches" I'm deciding I will become the best and do it all in a shorter amount of time.

This sounds cocky and arrogant of me, yet it's a decision I have to make with myself so I can attain that goal.  I am prepared to mess up and look like a total idiot but I'm also prepared to win competitions in public speaking too, and I will do whatever it takes to become one of the best.

This is an attitude you will need to develop to get over your fears.  I speak a lot about fears that hold you back in life, because we never want to be held back.  We should never let those simple things hold us back anymore.  Pick your fear and resolve to become the absolute BEST at what you were once afraid of, dream big and face that fear. 

Stay motivated
Shane C

Sunday, October 23, 2011

The truth

I'm going to let you in on something that's quit upsetting to some. It's something many people may disagree with but it's a cold hard fact. 
People will never change, all the nagging and advice that you give someone will never make them change, accept it.
This is not a made up thing, it's psychology.  Whatever your basic personality is, you are stuck with it and nothing will change that.  In the short term, changes may be noticed but when people are left to behave in their own ways, they always resort to their old personalities.  If they are lazy, they remain lazy.  If they are charismatic, they will always have charisma and this goes for all personality traits that have been chiseled since childhood.
This seems very self defeating when you read this, but there is hope. 

How to change someone

There is only one way to change someone, and that is to start by changing yourself.  Remember, you can't change your personality but you can change your thinking, skills and habits, this is key!  By beginning to change yourself for the better you become a role model to others, and motivation is what gets people to change not nagging or wishing.
Everybody has an "Ideal self" they want to achieve in their minds and they will do anything to reach that, but they must see it's possible, this is where you must show them.  Become your "ideal self" through learning new skills and make the necessary changes to become "Fantastic" you notice others around you asking you for advice, it's up to them to follow your advice. You become a mentor and no longer a nag. 

People have developed into who they are from many thousands of days of being exposed to different things that life has brought them.  This is why you are unable to change people.  Accept who they are, and become the best you can be...This is how to change people.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Top 6 YOUTUBE videos

Sometimes we fall on something that motivates us to the core.  In today's blog I add some of my personal favorite YOUTUBE videos that truly help motivate me as a speaker and as a blogger.  Hopefully they affect you to do something powerful with different aspects in your life. 

The first video is the amazing story of how Sylveste Stallone came to create Rocky.  I had no idea the struggle behind this movie and truly is a story of determination.



The man in the next video is regarded as the BIGGEST guru of personal development.  Jim Rohn has taught me and so many more how to become better, watch my favorite speaker talk about the day that can truly change your life.

The third video is truly powerful due to the raw emotion and transformation performed in front of an audience.  Whether you watch the following and focus on the relationship or the transformation it truly is an emotional video.

Here is the legendary Steve Jobs giving his legendary speech at Stanford.  Can you imagine being there watching live, this man has changed the world...So worth watching
 
 
Mr. Les Brown is a man who overcame the beliefs that often hold us back.  He shows you how to do the same, persistence pays off.
 


And here we are at my all time favorite video by Nick Vujicic.   Ask yourself, why are you giving excuses once you watch this.




Don't be ashamed if you shed a tear or two.  These videos are amazing and I hope they affected you to take action right now.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thank you

I want to take this time to thank all of you for the personal emails on your success!

I just recently started a fanpage on FACEBOOK http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Shanes-motivational-Daily-blog/262200067152376

I'd like you to become a FAN by clicking "LIKE" at the top of the page.  Also, take the time to become interactive by answering questions and posting all the success you've achieved.  We all love to read about success on SHANE'S DAILY MOTIVATOR

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Behind fear is something great

"If only I had done that, my life would be so different!"

How many times have you told yourself that?  How many times have you complained that if you had taken advantage of a certain opportunity, your life would be totally different?
You could have a totally different life if you had taken advantage of an opportunity that you avoided due to fear, and that my friends is a sobering thought.
I'm here to tell you it's not to late to change your life dramatically.  Face a fear and do what scares you, I'm not talking about skydiving (although that may apply), I'm talking about the small things that you believe you don't deserve to go for in life, the "things" you're afraid to try.

The things you look at with fear, thousands of others look at with excitement.  It's all about "how" you look at things.  Start looking for opportunity in fearful situations you are faced with.  Public speaking, flying and networking with others are just some things that we tend to fear that can hold us back from life changing moments.  Everything you choose to try has some kind of opportunity in it, it's all a matter of finding out what the opportunity is.

Next time you feel a fear of doing something, embrace that fear (as difficult as it seems) looking at fear as a guide taking you towards something great.  Once you conquer a fear, you will be hooked on conquering another fear.

Today's exercise:

1. In your journal write down 10 things you fear.
2. Choose 3 fears that you will overcome in the next 6 months.
3. Overcome them!  Face them, unless your fear is tigers, realize the fears don't bite :-)

An easy way to figure out which fear to overcome, is to write down all the opportunities you can have by conquering the fears on your list.  This will be a huge motivator.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

P.S.- If you asking why I haven't given you the rest of the steps on overcoming the 10 fears, it's simply because I want you to make the simple step of  beating 3 fears before proceeding.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Choices

The choices you make determine your destiny.

Every minutes of everyday you have choices to make about everything to do. How you react to a situation to what you will eat and even more difficult decisions like financial planning are all part of decision making.
Every decision made will affect you long term towards shaping the rest of your life.  Every single tiny choice you make affects your long term success or failures. 
To effectively narrow down your choices in life you must ask yourself two simple questions.

1.  What am I trying to accomplish?
2.  What is the best use of my time?

This really can get you to the right answer for some of the following decisions:
-People you associate with.
-How you handle your health.
-What you choose to learn.
-Career.
-What to buy.
-Fiances.
And any other day-to-day questions you ask yourself.

Something as simple as associating with a person who guides you in a self destructing path may make you feel great in the short term, yet down the road you will live to regret the choice you made if you don't ask yourself those two important questions:

What am I trying to accomplish?
What is the best use of my time?

Have fun making those decisions, they affect everything!

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Monday, October 10, 2011

You are smarter than a fly

It's not how many you win.  It's how many you show up for.

Allowing circumstances in your life to prevent you from achieving what you want may be a sign you're giving up to soon.  How many times have you tried to achieve something, only to quit at the first sign of difficulty?  Life is filled with obstacles, they are meant to be hard so we can strengthen while trying to get what we want.

When a fly gets stuck in your house, he keeps trying to get outside by bumping into the window repeatly. Have you ever opened the window and attempted to guide the fly towards the opening only to have the fly ignore you? We act exactly like flies sometimes, the belief that if we just keep doing something the same way over and over again will lead us to success drives us mad.

If you were to stop for a second and assess your situations and goals, you will be more likely to think logically of newer and better ways to try and achieve your goals as oppose to doing the same thing over and over.  There is always a way to get what you want, it's up to you to keep trying new ways.

Stop being like a dumb fly, and think more intelligently next time.  This is not the time to give up on what you want so badly.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Look at your life for a second.

Does it feel like there are to many small things in your life to cope with all the big things?

That's because your putting  all the small things in life ahead of the big things in life.
How do you distinguish the difference between the big things and the small things?  The small things are usually wants the BIG things are usually needs

Example-
Want- Something you can live without.  When you get a want you often regret it down the road of life, it always gets in the way of a need.

Need- Something you require.  When you get a need you feel as if your regretting it because it comes in the way of your wants.  Yet you never regret getting your need down the road of life.

Here is a prospective of how to look at your life.

Put your BIG things before your small things.  Soon enough, you won't have as much time for the small things in life once you start to be grateful for all the BIG things your life has to offer.

The exercise in the following video will explain this more clearly.  Once you watch it, the time will come to review your life's priorities:
 


Stay motivated
Shane C.

Friday, October 7, 2011

The easy trick you've forgotten

What's your destination?

I haven't covered goal setting in a little while and I wanted to touch base in case you've forgotten.  What is it your working towards?  If you can't answer that question clearly, you better sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. Goals must be written down and looked at often. I would even go as far to say once upon waking and again right before bed.  The more you look at what you are working towards the better your focus will be towards what you want to achieve.

I'm sure you have worked with a group of people at work, in your community or even organizing a party.  Most of the time everybody has there own agendas and ideas, emotions tend to get all mixed up and the goal is totally forgotten about. This is simply because people are not on the same page nobody knows what the main goal is that they should be working towards. Trying to achieve your own goals can be the same, if you don't know which direction to go, your thoughts and emotions will have you all over the place.

Sit down and write out your goal, memorize it so you can say it clearly enough a child in kindergarten could understand.  If you haven't been working on this simple task you won't be able to get where you want to go.  You must take step 1 before you can get to step 2.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

New day, new start!

Welcome to a brand new day!

Whether you are reading this first thing in the morning or late in the day, feel confident everyday is a brand new exciting start. Things are very simple first thing in the morning, turn the alarm off and sit up, it's that simple.
Soon, thoughts will start to flood your mind about the day ahead.
You are given a choice everyday, good thinking or negative thoughts.  You have total control to decide if you run your mind or if your mind will control you.  The first thing I want you to do is get excited about something as simple as the smell of coffee.  You need to find something to get you out of bed every single day.
Start your day off right, it sets the tone for the day.  As you put your feet on the floor and take your first step out of bed decide the next step you take will take you to a great place.

Does the following sound familiar?
You wake up at the very last minute then you rush around angry?   Please train yourself to get up a little earlier, you can start off by waking up 15 minutes before your present time. Sure it will be difficult in the beginning but it gives you 15 extra minutes to slow down and enjoy your morning routine to get a better start to your day.

New days are a chance to start over.  We can sometimes take mornings for granted but if we get excited about a new start it changes the whole prospective on morning time.
Stay motivated
Shane C.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Investment in yourself

Everyday this blog is written, it is written with a purpose.  The main purpose is to inspire YOU to be great, the other reason is I must practice.  I must practice the art of writing daily if I want to excel at it. This is an easy way to get my ideas down and communication skills up for the books I plan to write.

This brings me to today's topic.  The topic I am discussing is being an investment in life.  You can choose to become an investment to others or simply be an expense, costing time and money to people and companies in your future. 
Becoming an investment needs to begin with an intense desire to want something in life.  Know what you want to become, then everyday work at it.  Learn, practice and use creative thinking before it is asked of you, that way when you are asked to preform in life you already know how from the learning you've developed.

Let me use "career" as an example.  If you want a career in politics and you presently work in a pizza restaurant use your free time to learn as much as you can about ever aspect of politics there is to know. Learning is so crucial for your future it gets you an advantage that cannot be achieved by luck or easy breaks.  Invest in yourself so a company will be pleased to invest in you in your future.

Career is just an easy example I've used.  The world is your oyster and there is so much knowledge for you to absorb.  Walk into a bookstore sometime and look around it's filled with knowledge.  Google a subject the Internet it's filled with knowledge.  YouTube a seminar or instructional video, that too is filled with knowledge.  It's up to you to take that "free time" to listen, watch and read this valuable information.

So ask yourself,
"Am I investing in my future, so someone will invest in me?"

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Monday, October 3, 2011

I got a dare for you.

"Never say anything about yourself you don't want to come true."- Brian Tracy


We gravitate towards what we think about, so why not try this;

For one day start the habit of only thinking and speaking about what you want.  This will be the most difficult thing you will ever do, so I will add a small punishment if you think negatively.

Wear an elastic band around your wrist and anytime you think or speak about what you don't want, pull the elastic and let go.  This small shock of pain will associate pain with a negative frame of mind.

We often don't realize how often we think about want we don't want, and the first step to correcting this way of thinking is associating the pain we inflict on our self by holding back our potential. This could take a week or more to correct the problem of "stinkin' thinkin'", you just gotta stick with it.  Your whole way of thinking will change and you will feel amazing and be willing to do more with your life.  Warning- The first few days will hurt....

Are you ready?  Go get the elastic

Stay motivated
Shane C

Sunday, October 2, 2011

A new beginning

It's funny where I get inspiration for some blogs I write.  Today's blog came from looking at a bottle of body wash in the shower.  You see, I really like the smell of this body wash and every time it's used the end gets closer and that makes me a little sad, pathetic isn't it? Then I started to think and got excited.  

"I get to go buy a brand new bottle!!"

There are two ways you can look at things, you either look at it as an ending or a brand new beginning.  When we have something we really enjoy it's not fun when it's gone but we must know that if we had fun and enjoyment with something, we are capable of feeling that all over again.  This goes for BIG things in your life and also the small things like my bottle of body wash.

Think of some simple things in life that bring you down when they come to an end:

-The weekend
-Your favorite song on the radio
-When your best friend has to leave
-Your bag of chips in the pantry
-The gas in the gas tank of your car

These are all simple things in life that always work themselves out but at the moment they end it can feel like the end of the world doesn't it?

New beginnings, should be something to get totally excited about.  If your sad about a vacation or the weekend being over know that fun times are not that far away.   Every week the weekend comes back and so does the anticipation for the weekend...That's exciting!

So start looking at beginnings as oppose to sad endings, sure things end but things always begin too.  Which is more exciting?
Beginnings or endings....

Stay motivated
Shane C.

ps- Super excited to go buy more body wash ;-)

Saturday, October 1, 2011

Do you have a personailty that hurts you?

What you believe are positive traits about yourself, could be holding you back.  A good example are silly statements you make to people such as:

-"Oh! I'm a very outspoken person"
-"I don't really care what they think"
-"I never listen, they don't know what it's like"

There's a fantastic book written by Dale Carnegie called HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE. The book has sold over 15 million copies and was written in 1936. The title of the book says it all and I've learned so much about how my personality affects people around me.  After reading this book and studying my behaviors along with other peoples personality types I have come to realize to is best to avoid these traits if you want to get anywhere with people in life.

Being stubborn
This type of personality seems to be not open to change. It's a "don't care what they think" personality,  this person chooses only to do what's been done over and over again. Does any of this sound familiar?

Outspoken
This type of personality is very interesting to me. Always having an opinion that seems to shock everybody around. The persons vocabulary is loaded with the first thing that pops in their head and they are not afraid to let others know. You'll also notice this persons friends speaking about them when they are not around, saying the following: "Oh! (insert name) is very outspoken, she doesn't care who's around".  How is this a positive thing?

Pessimist
Always seeing the negative in EVERYTHING. Name the topic, this persons personality can find anything wrong with anything. Nothing seems to be right, nothing in life works and the want you to know.

These 3 personality types along with any other negative ones can turn your personality into a toxic environment.  You risk pushing important people away in your life and are avoiding building good personal and professional relationships with others due to their snap judgements of what they see and hear you say.  There is one way these personalities can work for you and that is to know when to use them. 
So the basic moral of the story is, know when to use a negative personality, if you classify yourself as a pessimist, outspoken or stubborn person you could be putting up a wall around yourself that can prevent greatness from entering your life.

Key points.

-Have your own thoughts, yet know how to use them with people.
-Stick to your morals, yet know when to cooperate.
-Even if you are a positive person, you must still know negative aspects of things.  You just don't live in the negative.

Answer this question:
Is changing your personality for the better going to hold you back? And if so how?

Yes, there is such a thing as being yourself, I'm not saying change everything about yourself. It's a matter of improving yourself.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Getting stronger

Have you ever seen someone with great muscles?

We tend to idolize their beauty, sure we tell people around us that it doesn't look nice but deep inside we wish we had those great muscles.
The one thing we often don't come to understand is that the person with muscles was once weak.  They put in work day-in and day-out, lifted weights and ate the proper foods so their body could be shaped that way.

The main point I'm trying to get across is they were once weak, through hard work they got to a point of beauty and strength that is now admired.

Every master was once a disaster.

I love that quote, I'm not sure who said it but I do know that to achieve top levels in life, you need to be weak before you can strengthen.  If you feel weak and powerless at this point in your life and you feel you can never achieve a point of success you are right!  You will only be weak till you take the first step to get stronger in whatever you choose to do.  You must work harder than the rest to be noticed and get what you want.

If you feel weak and powerless think of that person with muscles, they had to start by lifting five pounds before they could lift one hundred pounds.  Flex your mental muscles to get yourself started on what you want to become, then do it day-in and day-out.


Stay motivated
Shane C.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Sabotaging success

Here a few scenarios I would like you to read, then ask yourself if you are guilty of committing any of them.

-Are you trying to lose weight but when you feel stressed you enjoy your favorite comfort foods to bring on pleasure?

-Do you have an early morning workout, but because you love watching late night TV your to tired to train in the morning?

-Do you have a full day ahead of you that requires all your focus but you stay out all night with friends only to wake up with a fuzzy head and an upset stomach?

Are you a sad depressed person with the goal of happiness, yet when you feel down you shut the world out?

These are some common things that sabotage success.  Instead of feeling a little uncomfortable getting closer towards your goal, you choose the easy pleasures to escape the uneasy feeling that comes with what you are striving for.
Deep down you know you know these behaviors hurt your progress because you always regret doing them shortly after.  The reason we all do this is we love pleasure, and we want it NOW!  When you really think about it why would you ever want to hold out on pleasure.

A behavior that brings on instant pleasure is fine if it happens once or twice a month, it becomes more of a problem when it happens 1-2 times a week. Think about if your on a weight loss program and 2-3 times a week you eat sweets because you had a rough day at work, unfortunately this will not match up with your weight loss goal.

So what do we do about it?
Step number one is know exactly what behaviors are keeping you from success.  Sit down and write out anything you kick yourself in the butt for doing more than you would like to do.
Refuse to get to angry with yourself, just know it's become a habit and that you must stop doing it to achieve success.

How do we stop doing a habit? 
We replace it with a healthier habit, something that will preoccupy our mind and be more constructive such as:
Exercise
New hobbies
Reading
Find positive people to discuss your goals with (like minded people)
etc...

New constructive activities will turn into habits that will become pleasurable when done often.  Like your bad habits they are learned behaviors, you will learn to do them often when you stay consistent.

Write down what stressful things in your life lead you to do bad things. 
When you understand what triggers your destructive behaviors, it will become much easier to to understand why you seek instant pleasures that hold you back.

The road to success is not easy, it's a long road.  The rewards and pleasures you will enjoy once your big goals are achieved are what you have been dreaming of.  Keep up a positive attitude, knowing you can do anything you put your mind towards.  Obstacles are meant to be overcome, they are not there to stop you.

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Do what others won't

The key to being a little better than the rest, is to do what the rest are to lazy to do.

This goes for everything in life such as personality, work, relationships and even what you choose to learn. Anything that will lead to something positive in life will be worth working towards.
The majority of people know exactly what they should be doing but choose to put it off for another time.

What is the best use of my time?
Always ask yourself this question?  And the key time to ask yourself this is when you find yourself being lazy.  When you figure out the best use of your time, take a small step towards what should be done.

Have a list.
Always have a list of the most important tasks that need to be done.  This list can be small chores to do daily or it can be a larger list that requires many small steps to complete.

Knowing your working towards greatness.
Always keep this in mind when your questioning if something is worth doing.  "While I'm doing something constructive, someone is being lazy."  Always know deep inside that are being proactive while "the rest" or "your competition" is at rest.

Success is not an easy journey, this is why so many people want to attain it. Success will only be rewarded to the ones who work towards it. 

Stay motivated
Shane C.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Life beliefs

Today, the topic I'll discuss is beliefs.  We all have them and they either get us ahead, but mostly they hold us back from our potential.  It's the reason why we are not getting to where we would like to be in our lives financially, emotionally, etc...  Always question your beliefs and how you've come to believe them.
In my life, I've told myself over the years I was changing my beliefs. If I told myself my sales goal was to be a certain amount of sales per month I would do everything I could try and get to that goal, except look at my beliefs. So I would write down my goal and tell myself daily I was going to reach a certain amount of sales per month. Something funny was happening though, I wasn't getting where I needed to be. I could never seem to improve on my past goals, I could see no improvement. It was a pattern, I would start off like a rocket only to go back to my old ways.
Then out of the blue, I figured out what the problem was. I was trying to get to my goal, yet my series of beliefs did not match up with my new goals.
 I had a certain set of beliefs on the following topics in my life that did not meet my goal in a positive way.
1.Self image
2.Customers
3. Products 
4.Economy
5.My industry

These are topics I must keep positive and healthy to reach my sales goals. If I have strong positive beliefs about everything except my customers guess what, no amount of wishing, visualizing or "laws of attraction" will get me closer to my goals.

Every single belief you have has you exactly were you are today. You behave, act and do things according to your beliefs. So here is what I'd like you to do, examine you beliefs and learn how you came to believe them.  Is it only an assumption?  Maybe your belief is bulit from people telling you over and over that something is the way it is.
In my industry I work with people who have the following beliefs:

-The economy is no good in this city anymore.
-Our customers don't have much money.
-Nobody wants to buy this.
-It's raining so business will be bad.
-We can't compete with the prices from up the street.

I always love showing people I'm working with that what they tend to believe is not true.  It doesn't matter which part of the country I'm in, many sales people have the exact same beliefs. When I can motivate and prove to people that their belief systems are totally fictional and only based on negative thinking they slowly change and get more excited, more competitive and their moods tends to improve. A belief can be changed in a year or as little as an hour.

Here is your call to action for today:

1. Examine strong beliefs starting in your career or business. Now ask yourself where did they come from?

2. Are your beliefs based on an assumption, something you've heard as a child or are they 100% factual.

3. Make the realization everything you believe makes you act, behave and do every move you make.

You have the power to change the bad beliefs in your life.
Stay motivated
Shane C.