What you believe are positive traits about yourself, could be holding you back. A good example are silly statements you make to people such as:
-"Oh! I'm a very outspoken person"
-"I don't really care what they think"
-"I never listen, they don't know what it's like"
There's a fantastic book written by Dale Carnegie called HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE. The book has sold over 15 million copies and was written in 1936. The title of the book says it all and I've learned so much about how my personality affects people around me. After reading this book and studying my behaviors along with other peoples personality types I have come to realize to is best to avoid these traits if you want to get anywhere with people in life.
This type of personality seems to be not open to change. It's a "don't care what they think" personality, this person chooses only to do what's been done over and over again. Does any of this sound familiar?
This type of personality is very interesting to me. Always having an opinion that seems to shock everybody around. The persons vocabulary is loaded with the first thing that pops in their head and they are not afraid to let others know. You'll also notice this persons friends speaking about them when they are not around, saying the following: "Oh! (insert name) is very outspoken, she doesn't care who's around". How is this a positive thing?
Always seeing the negative in EVERYTHING. Name the topic, this persons personality can find anything wrong with anything. Nothing seems to be right, nothing in life works and the want you to know.
These 3 personality types along with any other negative ones can turn your personality into a toxic environment. You risk pushing important people away in your life and are avoiding building good personal and professional relationships with others due to their snap judgements of what they see and hear you say. There is one way these personalities can work for you and that is to know when to use them.
So the basic moral of the story is, know when to use a negative personality, if you classify yourself as a pessimist, outspoken or stubborn person you could be putting up a wall around yourself that can prevent greatness from entering your life.
-Have your own thoughts, yet know how to use them with people.
-Stick to your morals, yet know when to cooperate.
-Even if you are a positive person, you must still know negative aspects of things. You just don't live in the negative.
Answer this question:
Is changing your personality for the better going to hold you back? And if so how?
Yes, there is such a thing as being yourself, I'm not saying change everything about yourself. It's a matter of improving yourself.