When you speak with people what is the usual topics?
Do you find yourself talking about your accomplishments?
Do you talk about what outcomes you want?
Do you twist the truth to make yourself sound better?
Do you talk about your problems?
Watch yourself at all times, the topics you bring up set the tone for the experience somebody will have with you. If you've ever wondered how you come off to people in conversation put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if they talked to you in the same tone, with the same topic, etc....
I recently found myself having a very negative conversation about a topic that was brought up in conversation. I had an instant sense of regret after getting off the phone...Argh! I wish I could take back the whole conversation . This brings me to the subject of awareness, as long as you are aware of the mistakes you make in conversations you have every opportunity to correct them in the future.
Always speak of solutions and the outcomes you would like and most importantly, listen twice as much as you speak. The more positive the tone of the conversation the more motivated you are to accomplish anything in life.
Monitor the words you speak, even writing down the tone and topics of your conversations with people in your journal at the end of the day. If you slip up, write down how you could have put a more positive spin on the conversation. And do yourself a favor, stop asking people about negative situations in their lives. Ask them how have they improved. Keep things upbeat, you are the tone of the conversation at all times.